Integrative Counselling and Supervision in Bexley, Bromley and Dartford
Care, Respect, Trust, Aspire
I am away now on holiday for a few weeks and will be back early in June. The phone will be off but I will respond to any calls, texts or emails on my return.
Thank you for visiting my website. I have tried to balance information with keeping it brief, so please call or email if you would like any other information.
I am an accredited integrative counsellor, blending different approaches of theory to develop a warm working relationship, either together face to face or through online counselling. I work with individuals and couples from Bexley, Bromley, Dartford, as well as clients online, with issues ranging from;
alcohol and other addictions,
couple, marriage, and other relationships,
redundancy and life change,
terminal illness and bereavement,
depression, loneliness, and confidence,
physical and sexual abuse,
post natal depression
I offer online and telephone counselling in the UK and beyond where distance or other circumstances are an issue.
So what happens in counselling?
Counselling is about exploration of experiences, thoughts and feelings that can help bring about a better understanding of you. It’s about exploring things from your perspective, what's going on for you, maybe how you came to be that way, and perhaps how things could be different. Sometimes, just talking, putting thoughts and feelings into words, can change how we see things. In understanding the interactions in life or relationships, you can begin to see them differently, and become able to change them or deal with them better.
With couple, marriage, or relationship issues, it’s about each trying to understand the other, their experiences, what they want from the relationship and what they may not be giving to the other. A caring relationship can be strained by work, kids, family and financial pressures that we lose sight of the things that attracted us to each other in the early days. What each needs to do to re-enforce and maintain the connections that invigorate and vitalise a relationship?
Those four words at the top of the page, two for me and two for you, are the building blocks in our work. Care and respect is what I promise you, in all our work. All you have to do is trust and aspire to be different.
So how do you find the right person to talk with, to share your thoughts and feelings? It can be quite daunting. The first step is always the hardest; the first phone call, the first appointment, the first session. But have confidence, there is only my respect for what you are trying to achieve.
My counselling practiceAs I said earlier, I am an integrative counsellor and use different models of counselling in our work. Sessions can include exploring how the past affects the present, and aspects of cbt to look at how you see things and interpret them. Some clients bring their dreams or nightmares, while couples explore the niggles that escalate and devastate their relationships. I work with the pictures your words paint for me.
In past and present work with individuals and couples, in private practice, with an alcohol agency, with Women’s Aid, and with terminal illness; I work with many of the problems that trouble us in life; bereavement, loss and change, difficulties in marriage, couple or other relationships, stress and anxiety in life and work, domestic abuse, alcohol misuse and addictions.
In working with alcohol or other addictions, we look at potentially what’s happening in your life that causes these things to develop, what they hide and compensate for, but eventually lead to different, more severe problems. Working with eating disorders, it's about exploring their emergence and development, understanding the underlining issues, and hopefully working to reduce or minimise its effects.
With stress, depression, anxiety and abuse, we also explore the isolation and shame that can exist with these issues. We know how we should be, but why can’t we change, get over it, and make the changes work?
Working with bereavement and other loss, we explore the feelings, difficulties and other things we did not expect to feel. The importance of a loved one, or a career we were proud of. Of something we had that's no longer there.
As a couples or marriage counsellor, it's about working with two people and often two differing viewpoints, understanding perhaps how the dreams and expectations of the early years have been buried under disappointments, blame, and rows. 'We still love each other, but don't like each other' is a familiar starting point with couples, but many of them have turned things around to rediscover what they liked in each other.
Supervision of Practice
I also offer integrative supervision to counsellors and students, as well as those practicing in other caring professions. Sessions can be flexible to fit around professional or other requirements. Please check out my supervision page or contact me if you would like any further details.
Skype and Telephone Counselling
I also offer online and telephone counselling in the UK and beyond where appropriate. Counselling through Skype replicates many facets of being together in the room, but with allowances being made for some subtle differences. I feel that Skype allows people who travel the UK and beyond, for work or study, to maintain our working relationship, connection, continuity and support. As in face to face counselling, Skype and phone sessions take place in an equally confidential and respectful setting.
I am committed to providing a safe, respectful, and confidential service where you set the pace. We look at the issues you bring and talk about the thoughts and feelings they bring out.
Location and feesMy counselling practice is at Hurst Community Centre (click for map) in Hurst Road, Bexley, DA5 3LH. It is within easy reach of Bromley, Dartford, Sidcup, Eltham, in fact anywhere in South East London and North West Kent served by the A2 and A20. The centre has good on-site parking and is on the 269 bus route. I always meet clients on arrival. Home appointments are available, in appropriate circumstances, and subject to distance. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, or phone/text on 07925 371012.
I see clients Monday to Thursday, daytime and evenings. Sessions are by appointment; they last an hour, and are £45 for individuals, £55 for couples. Payment is by cash or cheque at each appointment. Supervision sessions are £40. Counselling or supervision for trainees is £30 for day time sessions and £35 for evenings.
So that’s me in a nutshell. Please do read my other pages, especially the frequently asked questions page, or better still contact me and ask those questions. The answers may help you find the right counsellor for you.
This update coincides with going on holiday to Canada, the first time for my wife and me. We are going with our son and daughter in law who asked us to join them on their trip. We feel privileged, honoured that they want us to be part of their adventure.
We are very much not going as parents or children, but as friends. Our relationships with our children have always been based on guidance rather than orders or direction, helping them to explore options, to find their own path, towards what they want to achieve.
I watch various programs on tv, where people want family or others to be proud of them, possibly because they are not proud of themselves, or they do not see their value or what they give to others. It can be devastating to feel that you have not lived up to the expectations of others. I feel sad for them because they do not have a sense of what they have achieved or what they mean to others.
We are not the product of what others give us, but of what is inside us and what we give to others. How we connect to that, understand it, can be challenging. It can be difficult to overcome negative patterns and to visualise and live positive ones, but it can be done with small changes in mind set and self-belief.