Integrative Counselling and Supervision in Bexley, Bromley and Dartford
Care, Respect, Trust, Aspire
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I am an accredited integrative counsellor, blending different approaches of theory to develop a warm working relationship, either together face to face or through online counselling. I work with individuals and couples from Bexley, Bromley, Dartford, as well as clients online, with issues ranging from;
alcohol and other addictions,
couple, marriage, and other relationships,
redundancy and life change,
terminal illness and bereavement,
depression, loneliness, and confidence,
physical and sexual abuse,
post natal depression
I offer online and telephone counselling in the UK and beyond where distance or other circumstances are an issue.
So what happens in counselling?
Counselling is about exploration of experiences, thoughts and feelings that can help bring about a better understanding of you. It’s about exploring things from your perspective, what's going on for you, maybe how you came to be that way, and perhaps how things could be different. Sometimes, just talking, putting thoughts and feelings into words, can change how we see things. In understanding the interactions in life or relationships, you can begin to see them differently, and become able to change them or deal with them better.
With couple, marriage, or relationship issues, it’s about each trying to understand the other, their experiences, what they want from the relationship and what may be missing. Relationships can be strained by work, kids, family and financial pressures that we lose sight of the things that attracted us in the early days. What each needs to do to re-enforce and maintain the connections that invigorate and re-vitalise a relationship.
Those four words at the top of the page, two for me and two for you, are the building blocks in our work. Care and respect is what I promise you, in all our work. All you have to do is trust and aspire to be different.
So how do you find the right person to talk with, to share your thoughts and feelings? It can be quite daunting. The first step is always the hardest; the first phone call, the first session. But have confidence, there is only my respect for what you are trying to achieve.
My counselling practiceAs I said earlier, I am an integrative counsellor and use different models of counselling in our work. Sessions can include exploring how the past affects the present, looking at how you see things and interpret them. Some clients bring their dreams or nightmares, while couples explore the niggles that escalate and devastate their relationships. I work with the pictures your words paint for me.
In past and present work with individuals and couples, I work with many of the problems that trouble us in life; bereavement, loss and change, difficulties in marriage, couple or other relationships, stress and anxiety in life and work, domestic abuse, alcohol misuse and addictions.
In working with alcohol or other addictions, we look at potentially what’s happening in your life that causes these things to develop, what they hide and compensate for, but eventually lead to different, more severe problems. It's about understanding the underlining issues, and hopefully working to reduce or minimise its effects.
With stress, depression, anxiety and abuse, we also explore the isolation and shame that can exist with these issues. We know how we should be, but why can’t we change, get over it, and make the changes work?
Working with bereavement and other loss, we explore the feelings, difficulties and other things we did not expect to feel. The importance of a loved one, or a career we were proud of. Of something we had that's no longer there.
As a couples or marriage counsellor, it's about working with two people and often two differing viewpoints, understanding perhaps how the dreams and expectations of the early years have been buried under disappointments, blame, and rows. 'We still love each other, but don't like each other' is a familiar starting point with couples, but many of them have turned things around to rediscover what they liked in each other.
Supervision of Practice
I also offer integrative supervision to counsellors and students, as well as those practicing in other caring professions. Sessions can be flexible to fit around professional or other requirements. Please check out my supervision page or contact me if you would like any further details.
Skype and Telephone Counselling
I also offer online and telephone counselling in the UK and beyond where appropriate. Counselling through Skype replicates many facets of being together in the room, but with allowances being made for some subtle differences. I feel that Skype allows people who travel the UK and beyond, for work or study, to maintain our working relationship, continuity and support. As in face to face counselling, Skype and phone sessions take place in an equally confidential and respectful setting.
I am committed to providing a safe, respectful, and confidential service where you set the pace. We look at the issues you bring and talk about the thoughts and feelings they bring out.
Location and feesMy counselling practice is in Bexley Village just up from the station. I’m at 4c Bexley High Street, Bexley, DA5 1AD, on the corner of Salisbury Road by Village Estates (click for map and street view). The entrance to 4c Bexley High Street is the green door numbered 4a in Salisbury Road opposite Ferrari’s Restaurant. Free on-street parking is available locally.
It is within easy reach of Bromley, Dartford, Sidcup, Eltham, in fact anywhere in South East London and North West Kent served by the A2 and A20. Home appointments are available, in appropriate circumstances, and subject to distance. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, or phone/text on 07925 371012.
I see clients Monday to Thursday, daytime and evenings. Sessions are by appointment; they last an hour, and are £45 for individuals, £55 for couples. Payment is by cash or cheque at each appointment. Supervision sessions are £40. Counselling or supervision for trainees is £30 for day time sessions and £35 for evenings.
So that’s me in a nutshell. Please do read my other pages, especially the frequently asked questions page, or better still contact me and ask those questions. The answers may help you find the right counsellor for you.
A reoccurring theme while working with clients over the past months has been the need and the benefit of good communication and understanding in a relationship.
It can be hard to see a point in coming to counselling when a relationship is in difficulty and high emotions set the scene, but many couples comment that the sessions allowed them to talk in a calmer, different setting that reduced the intensity of the situation so that both parties felt heard and understood.
Sessions can still be fiery, and some relationships still fail. But those couples may have a better understanding of what was going on and perhaps why their relationship failed, and hopefully not get stuck in the same situation in future relationships.
But sometimes miracles do happen in the counselling room, and a relationship can be rebuilt and become healthy again. It is about two people that are willing to leave entrenched positions and begin to listen to each other. To listen to how the other feels as well as having their own feelings heard. Communication and understanding are vital parts in that process.